Coping with success

It isn’t always easy. Good things (and the demands and attention they bring) can be as anxiety-producing as failures. Especially for those of us with insecurities and control issues and a damaged sense of self-worth. I’ve seen fellow writers experiencing success sabotage their careers—and themselves—in a desperate attempt to exert control over something that was happening that they felt like they had no power over. It’s surprisingly common—writers self-sabotage with substance abuse, or with failure to do the work, or by making absolute asses of themselves to colleagues, editors, fans. We over-internalize criticism and we fly our careers into mountainsides unintentionally, because we are so busy fussing over the controls that we don’t notice the honking great rock in the way.

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